As events occur to us they cause emotion.  The quality of the emotions that arise for us is a product of the event that evokes them. We get to choose whether we feel but not what we feel. The feelings will dissipate once they are fully felt.

We do best when we fully feel all our feelings as they arise. If we don’t fully feel the emotions they may pass out of our awareness for the moment but they linger, often associating with similar feelings.

Sometimes the feelings are too intense in the moment and they get in the way of things we need to do.  So we disassociate from them. We will have to go back later and attend to them or they will take up residence as unresolved trauma.

Whenever we have an experience that resonates at the same or a similar emotional frequency, those old feelings will come back up. But at this point we will need to do more than just endure them. For healing to happen we need to acknowledge and embrace those old unfelt feelings. If we don’t, they just keep coming up again and again looking for someone to fully witness and validate them.

If, when those feelings come up for us, they are met with rejection, denial, and fear; they are not getting acceptance so healing doesn’t happen.  When they are acknowledged, welcomed, and embraced, their energy dissipates and we are at peace.